Do you want to be happy? Do you want to feel good about yourself and your life? If so, then the first thing that you should do is let go of anger and resentment. These emotions can have a huge impact on your physical health as well as your mental state, so it's important not to hold onto them for too long.
In this article, we will discuss what these two negative feelings are, why they're detrimental to our happiness, along ways on how we can stop holding onto them.
Do not let anger and resentment get the better of you. You are so much more than that. Besides, it's a waste of energy that can otherwise be used for things that are really important to you and they take away from us.
Anger can consume us to an extent of which we lose control of our ability to process and react in a rational manner. We may lash out, yell or even attack another individual physically (G-d forbid) or verbally.
Anger is often followed by guilt or regret when we look back at how our actions affected others.
Resentment carries on anger's negative effects but adds its own harmful elements such as the sharpening of aggressive feelings over time which leads to self-hatred and withdrawal from meaningful relationships and activities such as socializing and physical activities.
The anger and resentment that we feel towards others can often be caused by the way they treat us or react to our behaviour, which is why it's important not to let them define who we are as people. We all have flaws, after all! When someone insults us or purposely tries to hurt us, it might now be because they hate us but themselves or an aspect of themselves.
- Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.
- Resentment is the feeling of anger, displeasure, or hostility that results from a real or imagined wrong; indignation at having been treated unfairly.
Releasing Anger And Resentment
There are many ways one can release anger and ultimately resentment. Some of the more common ones are:
- Reflecting on how you felt after someone had hurt your feelings and realizing that it was not about you.
- Learning to accept yourself for who you are, without trying to be what others want you to be.
- Spending time with friends or family can help encourage a positive mindset.
-Release meditation or hypnotherapy.
One important tool I recently learned was asking oneself a question - What do I need to do in order to achieve ...
When we ask ourselves, the universe/source answers. The next step is to listen and have the courage to apply.
Now, some of us may only go as far as releasing that negative emotion but not letting go of it.
Letting go means getting the memory of it completely out of your system. When you genuinely let go, you create space for true happiness and joy.
when you let go, in most cases you will make no mention of it at all as it will have left your system and disappeared into the ether.
It is our responsibility to be happy and free. As such it is up to us to find ways of getting there.
Below are a few tips on how to:
Write a detailed letter about how you feel. DETAILED. Pour all your feelings into that letter.
Keep writing until you don't feel anything. If that means the letter is only one word long, then so be it.
You will know when you are done because no more tears will come to your eyes and all feelings of negativity have left you for good.
Burn or rip up the paper with what was written on it if you want. But do not keep it anywhere in your house or office, as you will be tempted to read over the letter again and feel bad all over again about how horrible that person was for making you feel so terrible when they left
Now, imagine them standing before you (if possible) with their back turned towards you like a little kid that's been caught doing something bad. In your mind, slowly walk towards them and with a clear head state what you want to say or have already said on the letter out loud without being sarcastic at all. If anything is missing from the letter but it feels like there should be more than just write those few sentences down as well if possible before you say them.
Once you have said what needs to be said from the letter then imagine that person turning towards you with an apology and feel truly sorry about how they made you feel. Imagine yourself accepting their apology, forgiving them for what happened (again) and letting go of any anger or resentment that may still remain in your body like a warm hug.
After you have imagined the experience of letting go, take a deep breath and feel your body relax as it releases its hold on any anger or resentment that may be inside you at this time. Fill yourself up with love for yourself so that no one else can ever steal it away from you again because they know not how much worth it has been.
Hold onto this feeling for as long as you need to, continue breathing deeply and let it go when you are ready. If necessary repeat the entire exercise until you feel genuinely happy again without any anger or resentment affecting your moods. Thank yourself for being strong enough not to take other people's words or actions to heart. Thank yourself for being strong enough not to let other people's negativity affect you in the future either.
Conclusion: Know that by practising this exercise over and over again you are training your mind to be stronger than anger and resentment.
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