top of page

Our Values and Rules: The Architects of Our Lives


Our can contradict with our rules

Introduction


Have you ever stopped to consider the invisible forces that shape our lives? We often attribute our circumstances to external factors such as luck or fate, but what if the key to our fulfilment lies within ourselves? What if the quality of life we lead is determined by our own values and rules?


You see we have a set of values and rules that guide our decisions and actions. These values and rules act as the silent commanders, shaping the direction of your life. They can either empower us to live a life of fulfilment or leave us feeling constantly unfulfilled. In this blog post, we will explore the profound impact that our values and rules have on our lives and how they can either empower or disempower us.


The Clash of Contradictory Rules


One of the ways in which our values and rules shape our lives is through the clash of contradictory rules. We often find ourselves torn between conflicting desires, such as seeking freedom while also yearning for security. These contradictory rules can create a constant state of tension within us, pulling us in different directions.


For example, let's say you have a strong desire for freedom. You long to explore new horizons, take risks, and embrace the unknown. However, at the same time, you also crave security. You want stability, predictability, and a sense of safety. These two contradictory rules are bound to clash. While one rule urges you to move forward and pursue your dreams, the other rule holds you back in a place of safety.


This clash of contradictory rules can lead to a cycle of self-sabotage. You may find yourself taking steps towards your goals, only to sabotage your progress and retreat back to the familiar and secure territory. This internal struggle can leave you feeling stuck, unfulfilled, and unable to truly live the life you desire.


Empowering or Disempowering Ourselves


Our values and rules have the power to either empower or disempower us. When we align our values and rules with our deepest desires and aspirations, we empower ourselves to create a life of fulfilment. On the other hand, when our values and rules contradict our true desires, we disempower ourselves and hinder our own growth.



Feeling Conflicted
Feeling Conflicted


Let's revisit the example of conflicting desires for freedom and security. If you recognise that these contradictory rules are holding you back, you have the power to redefine your values and rules. You can choose to prioritise freedom and embrace the uncertainty that comes with it. By doing so, you empower yourself to take risks, explore new possibilities, and live a life that aligns with your true desires.


However, if you continue to hold onto conflicting rules that keep you in a state of tension, you disempower yourself. You limit your potential and confine yourself to a life that is constantly at odds with your deepest desires. It is crucial to recognize the role that our values and rules play in shaping our lives and consciously choose to empower ourselves through alignment.


Embracing Alignment and Fulfillment


So, how can we ensure that our values and rules lead us to a life of fulfilment? The key lies in embracing alignment. Alignment means choosing values and rules that are in harmony with our true desires and aspirations.


To achieve alignment, it is essential to first reflect on our deepest desires and aspirations. What truly brings us joy? What are our core values? Once we have a clear understanding of our true desires, we can then examine our current values and rules. Are they in alignment with our deepest desires, or do they contradict them?


If we discover conflicting rules, it is time to redefine our values and rules. We can consciously choose to prioritise our true desires and align our values accordingly. This process may require courage and a willingness to step outside of our comfort zones. However, the rewards of living a life in alignment with our true selves are immeasurable.


By embracing alignment, we empower ourselves to live a life of fulfilment. We break free from the cycle of self-sabotage and embrace the unknown with open arms. Our values and rules become the architects of a life that is aligned with our deepest desires, allowing us to experience true fulfilment and happiness.


Conclusion

It is our values and rules that shape our lives in an invisible way. Our experiences of fulfilment and unfulfillment are shaped by them. We can create a life that is in harmony with our true desires when we recognize the conflict of contradictory rules and choose to empower ourselves through alignment. Let’s build a life that is truly fulfilling by embracing our values and rules.


bottom of page